Persistence – 7 Times More Success Power
Usually when we discuss persistence here, we’re talking about how it impacts our own lives and successes. But for a moment, let’s back away from our personal concerns and examine how this trait of persistence might impact our children’s lives.
After all, anything we can contribute to the next generation is arguably more important – long term – than anything we may do on our own behalf. Besides, in the process we may actually learn something that helps us put our own lives more firmly on track, as well.
Today’s guest author Michael Grose, Australia’s leading parenting expert, challenges you to decide the future of your child as he asks…
Which Would You Choose for Your Child – IQ or Persistence?
By Michael Grose
Imagine at the birth of your child you are given a choice between bestowing great intelligence or great persistence on your baby. Which would you choose?
Take your time and think about it!
Your choice will make a profound difference.
It will impact heavily on your child’s success at school, their future levels of achievement and eventually income levels as an adult.
Smarts or persistence? What would you choose?
If you chose persistence then you are on the money.
You are giving your child a significant leg-up for future success.
This is the finding of the ground-breaking research into factors determining children’s achievement levels by Professor Charles Des Forges from the University of Exeter in the UK.
Des Forges found that the greatest individual characteristic that determined children’s success at school was persistence. It was number one by far.
In fact, persistence was a staggering seven times more significant than intelligence as a determinant of a child’s achievement.
SEVEN TIMES!! THAT’S HUGE!!
Now the good news is that persistence is not merely an inborn trait. It is the one aspect of a child’s temperament that can be impacted by people.
Des Forge found that parents, rather than teachers, are the people most likely to impact on a child’s persistence.
This is consistent with many other studies in the area.
What does a persistent child do?
Persistent kids do the some or all of the following:
- They stick at task until the end.
- They set goals and work toward them.
- They generally focus on tasks and are not easily distracted.
- They don’t let failure stop them.
- They are more likely to take risks as learners.
- They can be seen as stubborn or unwilling to bend
There are heaps of ways you can encourage your child to persist. But the BIG strategies all revolve around MODELLING, ENCOURAGEMENT and LANGUAGE.
As a parent think how you:
- Model persistence on a daily basis so your child sees what persistence is.
- Actively foster and promote persistence so your child sees it is possible
- Develop a set of words and phrases about persistence that your child hears routinely so that persistence becomes part of your child’s frame of reference.
- Make a fuss when your child sticks at a task regardless of their success so they know that it is something you value.
It’s in the best long-term interests of your child to foster a sense of persistence and ‘stickability’ so that they understand the link between success and effort. This is a valuable lesson for everyone – regardless of age.
Michael Grose is Australia’s NO. 1 parenting expert. He is the director of ParentingIdeas, the author of seven books for parents and a popular presenter who speaks to audiences in Australia, Singapore and the USA. Get your FREE Chores and Responsibilities for Kids Guide when you visit http://www.parentingideas.com.au Get a hold of Michael’s sensational new book Why First Borns Rule the World and Last Borns Want to Change It at http://www.michaelgrose.com You’ll be astounded when you learn about your birth order personality and how the position in your family impacts on your life!
Back to Charles:
Modeling… encouragement… language… are we sure we’ve learned all we can about using these three tools to the highest advantage?
Have you ever studied language patterns (such as in NLP) and how they can impact yourself and others?
Have you examined the role model you project through your daily behavior?
Do you regularly (or ever) actively encourage others to think more highly of themselves?
These three things – modeling, encouragement and language – are the tools with which we craft the future for ourselves and those who share life with us. We either use them to create qualities of strength, self-reliance and persistence… or we don’t.
We’re already using these tools every day (we can’t NOT use them), but the question is, what are we producing with them? If we have learned to value the higher qualities, our work product (what we produce) will indeed be the strength, self-reliance and persistence that are essential to any success – ours or our children’s.
Cheers from warm and smiling Thailand,
Charles
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